There is so much more to finding the perfect partner than physical appearance. Of course you need to be physically attracted to the person, but oftentimes the person becomes more attractive the more you get to know their personality. The following traits are ones that many women find irresistible in men, but these are also something to strive for. They are examples of character, not just levels of attractiveness.
1. Honesty And Trust
Without one you can’t have the other. I believe these two things are a basis for a strong relationship. A man who is honest with you will only help build your trust in him and eliminate doubt and stress. Another thing I think is important is that you trust your partner to tell you only what is important. Some people think that to have trust, you need to know everything about the other person’s past. Everyone goes through times in their life that they learn from but would rather not bring up simply because they have moved past it. Couples need to trust that the other person isn’t keeping anything from them but that when they don’t tell them something, it’s because it’s not important and won’t benefit or help the relationship grow.
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2. Purpose And Direction
There’s nothing wrong with not knowing what you want to do and being uncertain of where you’ll end up, but it’s not good to get stuck. A man who knows what he’s meant to do and where he needs to go to get there is a stable person. That in its own is an attractive trait because it helps make a woman feel safe knowing she is with someone who is on a path.
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3. Drive And Motivation
Without drive and motivation, that purpose and direction won’t actually get him anywhere. A man with the drive to achieve his dreams and the motivation to follow them will help the relationship keep moving. A stagnant person equals a stagnant relationship, which helps no one. You need a man to know what he wants and to actually work for it. This will translate into how he fights for your relationship.
4. Keeps The Romance Alive
The same way you want your man to go after his dreams, you want him to keep working to keep you. That honeymoon phase you enter into with a new relationship can stay as long as you are willing to work for it. A man who takes you out on dates, surprises you, and showers you in affection is hard to beat. I’ve oftentimes felt unappreciated or as if the spark had dulled simply because he thought once he had me he didn’t have to try anymore. Always fight for your partner. It doesn’t have to be a huge act of love. Even the simple things like a text in the middle of the day saying “I love you” can be enough to keep a flame burning.
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5. Takes Care Of Himself
He doesn’t need to be a statue of muscle (unless that’s what you’re into), but he should care about his well-being. Women love well-groomed men who smell nice. When we hug you and inhale deeply, it’s ’cause we’re smelling you. Not going to deny it and definitely won’t be ashamed of it either. Even better is when a man looks after himself for himself and because it makes him feel good. If women can get dressed up, wear makeup, work out, etc. for the sake of feeling good about themselves, so can and so should men.
6. Confident Yet Humble
Confidence is sexy. Cockiness not so much. A man who can stand tall and proud and be confident in himself should also be able to treat others with kindness and respect and not think he is above anyone else. This confidence makes women feel safe, unless he acts like he’s better than everyone else. It may feel good to sit on a throne, but I imagine it gets very lonely up there all by yourself.
7. Listens To What You Have To Say
Everyone wants to be heard. When a man not only listens to you but also shows interest in what you have to say, it makes you feel like you’ve hit the jackpot. “When a man can listen to a woman’s feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift. He makes it safe for her to express herself. The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs.” – John Gray
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8. Supports You
So he listens to what you have to say and then he supports you. That sounds pretty good to me. Even better? He tells you what you NEED to hear even if it’s not what you WANT to hear. This comes right back to honesty and trust. Every couple should hope for and want the best for their partner, and sometimes that means telling them the hard things and helping them see clearly. Another great thing in a man is when they can accept that fact that even if they give you their advice, it is ultimately your decision. Their support either way is a beautiful trait.
9. Sense Of Humor
If a guy can’t crack a smile or take a joke, he becomes less attractive right away. No matter what kind of sense of humor you have, being able to share it with someone is super important. A man who knows just what to say to make you smile during the good and bad times is a keeper.
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Passion is what gives a man his drive and motivation, but it will also make him a better lover. A man who isn’t afraid to let you know how he feels about you and doesn’t hold back will always keep you on your toes. It’s great to know that someone is head over heels for you. Women don’t like to have to guess how men feel about them. If a man is passionate, there is no question how deep his love is.
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11. Has A Personal Life
No one likes a clingy person. A guy should have his own friends and hobbies, and he shouldn’t rely on you to be his source of entertainment all the time.
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12. Treats His Family Well
Of course not everyone comes from a healthy, loving family, but when they do, it’s nice to see a guy who appreciates what he’s got. How he treats his family will say a lot about how he will treat you and your family should you have one of your own.