1. Acquire Different Traditions
We are a country that celebrates Karva Chauth as well as Valentine’s Day, Kali Puja as well as Halloween. How wrong is it really then to lay claim to traditions other than our own? Getting married with someone from a different culture never takes away anything from one’s own – it only adds more to the both of them. A whole new world of ideas, history and beliefs open up for both partners – and it is only enriching them both.
2. Learn New Languages
When you are an Indian, you more or less end up being a polyglot. With knowledge of English, Hindi and your regional mother tongue (if any) in different degrees, getting married to someone from another culture provides you the opportunity of mastering yet another language. Learning and teaching a new language to each other can be one of the best bonding activities between two people in love.
3. Open Up Minds
For those who come from liberal families, cross-cultural marriages are not quite a big deal – which is not the same case for more conservative ones. It takes great courage and patience to convince one’s families to open up their minds to the idea of bringing home a spouse from a completely different cultural background. For those that do become successful in their attempts, the parents, relatives and in-laws begrudgingly come to realize that at the end of the day, it is the person who matters – and not their culture really.
4. More Traveling Options
While it is great to have both your family and your in-laws living in the same city – or state, it does not mean that having them stay in different places is a negative either. When one person hails from Gujarat and the other from West Bengal – it means that you’ll only get to travel to each other’s hometowns more often. If it weren’t for a cross-cultural marriage, you probably wouldn’t have visited that place in your life ever.
5. More Festivals To Celebrate
When two people from different cultures come together, it means that there is now double the number of festivals to celebrate! Dhanteras AND Thanksgiving, Lohri and Eid – how can that be not one of the greatest advantages of a cross-cultural marriage? When your mind is broad enough, it can gather all the festive spirit in its folds.
6. Richer Cultural Experience For Next Generations
Children from mixed marriages undoubtedly have a far richer cultural heritage than the others. Not only do they grow up wiser, learning different cultures right from their childhood – but they are far less prone to fall prey to untested prejudices and cultural stereotypes. Charity, after all, begins at home.
7. Lessons In Co-Operation And Compromise
We are not saying mixed marriages are all hunky-dory. When two people from different communities come together, they share bigger struggles in their marriage than other couples – different norms and traditions and outlooks. However, those very stumbling blocks become the bedrock of a strong marriage through co-operation and comprise – qualities that India as a country itself sometimes needs desperately during tribal, communal and regional frictions.
8. More Stability And Understanding
Naturally, successful mixed marriages have more stability and understanding than the others – precisely because they have battled against each other due to differences so innate in themselves – as well as battled together against detractors of their marriage, which same-cultural marriages do not have to ever worry about.
9. Set Examples Of Tolerance
When a person in a conservative family or society decides to get married to someone out of their own caste or community, it might invite brickbats from the close-minded generations whose time is almost done – but it sets examples of tolerance among the newer generations. When you defy norms and go on to have a successful marriage of your own choosing, it emboldens the powerless and shows them that boundaries exist only in our minds – not in our hearts.
10. Nothing Else Matters, But Love
While the other reasons listed above are legit in their own rights – they still are unnecessary in the face of this last one. If two mature and responsible adults truly love and respect each other for who they are – and are willing to spend their lives with each other regardless of their cultural backgrounds, how does it matter if they worship different gods or what society thinks and suchlike?
While it is far more convenient really to have a conjugal partner from a similar background – it should really not be the numero uno criterion for a marriage. The religion or culture, caste or community can never vouch for the goodness of a human being, so why remain ensnared in false stereotypes and xenophobic narrow-mindedness?